What to Do When Your Child’s Other Parent Won’t Enforce Your Rules
Bedtimes. Snack time. Home work. Computer time. Every parent has guidelines for their children surrounding these and other items. Kids learn best when the rules are consistent. But, when one parent doesn’t enforce the rules, kids can get confused or start to test the boundaries with both parents.
If your child’s other parent is more flexible than you are, you may not need to consult your attorney – but you may need to change your own approach. Here’s how:
- Be consistent in your own home.
Regardless of what your child is expected to do when visiting his or her other parent, in your home, the rules should be clear and consistently enforced. If your child complains, “But Mom/Dad lets me!” calmly reply, “But that is not the rule here.” With consistent rules, your child will learn what is and is not acceptable when they visit you – even if they can “get away with it” elsewhere.
- Pick your battles.
What your child eats for an after-school snack may be unimportant – unless your child is eating a food to which they have an allergy or intolerance. Which rules are essential for your child’s health or long-term security and success? If you choose to talk to your child’s other parent, focus on the most important rules.
- Know when to call in reinforcements.
Some rule violations are extremely serious. If your child’s other parent blocks your time with the child or prevents the child from contacting you, speak to your experienced San Diego child custody lawyer. Repeated violations may call for a stronger response. The Law Office of Thomas M. Huguenor can be there for you.
Contact us at (858) 458-9500.